The White Question

I guess it's the elephant in the room of many parties that many don't want to talk about. I have read so many different invitations to parties and either the host is adamant about not having white guys at the event or its a party that is hosted by a white man that is trying to get brothers to come out. I have been doing events for a while and really wanted to weigh on the issue to give you the perspective that many people don't get. Hopefully this will shed some light for the white fam.

First of all, many party host have a distrust of white people. You may argue that its 2008 but many of the hosts have parents that were discriminated, attacked and taught not to mix sexually with other races. There are alot of historical reasons why many African American party hosts will not let you into their set. Rather than getting mad at them , you have to accept the fact that for many of us. The hurts from the past don't go away because MLk marched on Washington. That is the broad answer. I will give some up to date reasons.

They Don't Show up

This has to be the number reason promoters don't want white fam into their set. The guy asks a ton of questions, talks about how much other parties don't let white men in the door and then doesn't show up. I have had hundreds of white men ask for invitations to the party and then not show up. Request to come again and then say the reason they didn't show was because they didn't want to be the only white guy knowing the event was an ethnic based group with 99.9% chocolate. Now they could have saved themselves some time and just threw their own party but they decided to bitch and complain about not getting in and then not show.

Too many Questions

There is a big difference in discretion between white people and men of color. It is just as loud as the color pink at a gay pride parade. I have noticed that white men want to ask 50 questions about an event and then get into the event and ask another 40 questions just killing the vibe for the brothers that are there. Whereas brothers understand that a sex party is just that and only require to know the location, who its for and the cost. They come into an event quiet and feel the place out or if a brother goes to events on the regular, he just takes his clothes off and goes for what he knows.

I have had this happen with several white brothers that wanted to come to my Big Men's party. They asked more questions than anyone and then called from outside the spot to say how nervous they were and wanted to know the racial breakdown of the party, how many people were there and what people were doing. Quite honestly they were being nosy as fuck. They don't get that same information from a bookstore they go to for dick sucking yet want to ask the me so many damn questions and as a host it makes me think that this guy can't keep his mouth closed.

The worst thing for an ethnic group is to have a party and then read a review from some dude talking about who was there and giving all of the groups private information out to the public. For that reason, many parties don't want white fam there because they have observed that white fam for some reason don't know how to go with the flow.


Discretion

Although i have not had to deal with this one, I know a few promoters who have dealt with this one. The guy gets the invite an then comes to the hotel front desk with the invitation asking for information to find the party. Yeah, I couldn't beleive that. But I have heard that so party promoters will just ban the race of dudes than to deal with screening it out. Not that elevated..I know but after someone tries to shut down an event that you spent months promoting..you would be inclined to do that.

Difference of Culture

There are just some differences that are just cultural. White men say "cock" [ I hate that word] , Black men say " dick ". Black men at a sex party can enjoy straight porn while many white men want to see gay porn. White men will want people to just walk in and start fucking where brothers will take some time to feel out the place before fucking. Even in a sex party brothers will exercise in who they pick to get down with. Whereas many white men will just jump on the first dick they can find. I have noticed that brothers will not talk in the dark room while peeps are getting busy where white men will want to talk.

Now these are generalizations based on my experience and a few promoters that have commented on the same thing. Don't hate me. Actually, I could give a fuck if you did. But I just want to put it out there so if you run across an event and don't an invitation or go find a party that doesn't want white people you have some idea why it is.

Looks

Those events that do let white fam in usually will select the creme of the crop into the event than the average white fam. They may advertise athletic and fit but that doesn't mean that an average white fam is going to get into a black party. I have noticed that the white brothers that got into black parties were above average, muscle men and sexy as fuck. They didn't pick opie types or the kind of white fam that couldn't pick up black dudes in a social setting. It's crazy but people are people.

At the end of the day, the party reflects the fantasy of the host and his desires. Now for the Undercover Life policy on this.

We are an ethnic based group and white men should realize that it will be a majority of brothers there.

We don't discriminate on white fam but we want those that would fit very well with our group of men , so every white brother is not going to get in because as a owner, I know that men who don't chill or are very apprehensive or rude will piss of my members.

We ask that any white brother , read the site first to understand what we do and then follow the directions on the invite. This will create a very good experience for him.

We ask that any white brother, not ask 21 questions when he arrives but chill and feel out the place. When in Rome, do as the Romans do.

Besides that we welcome those that fit in our group. I hope that clears up some questions you may have with the ethnic based events and parties. I speak for what i have observed and can only stand on that.

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