What's behind party prices ?

I guess it's time for me to explain to the best of my ability how groups come up with prices and how you can figure out what to expect from the amount of what people charge.

A common belief is that sex should be free. Yes but when it comes to throwing a sex party, there are plenty of costs that are associated with the endeavor. I don't know anyone that is going to finance your romance unless it falls under one of the setups that i will explain here but the rule of thumb is that you get what you pay for...well almost

Free and $5 Parties

These events are usually done by people who are doing something from thier homes or is in town for a day and want to get a group of brothers together for a bash. You will find a standard hotel room and as people come in, you take your clothes off and freak. Don't expect drinks and the full range of amenities although a few party hosts will have something on hand to get the party loose.

As far as crowd is concerned. These events can usually draw very big crowds of the Wal-mart Variety. But I have found that if someone is looking for very fit and/or masculine dudes, these events typically will not scratch your itch. On the smaller end of the spectrum, you will find a great group of brothers if the host is on point. Now if he looks like someone who couldn't pull at a bar or club then you are not going to get that top notch private freak.

$10 Spot

These events are usually thrown by the casual party host that wants to have an occasional event where people can get together and have a great time. You will find condoms and lube. Sodas may be provided. The $10 parties are also given by party promoters that have events on a regular basis. You know those industrious brothers that have party groups running out of thier homes and hosts events every weekend. These $10 parties are very popular in New York City.

As far as the crowd. You can find some great brothers at these events considering the hosts usually have a following of men that will come on a regular basis to support the party. These events are usually a better find than a free or $5 party.

Note: The party hosts tend to have better attitudes. I forgot to mention that free and $5 parties tend to have the body police and rude hosts that are trying to fulfill their personal fantasy. So if you don't meet up then, you will be turned away fast.

$20 Premium Events

These tend to be your premium events but don't get it twisted there are a few $20 plus parties out there that are cheap as hell. If you are paying $20 for an event and you are coming to the Ramada then save your bucks and head to a bookstore for a more economical event. Back to my point. The premium events tend to be the best value because they are all inclusive and you don't have to bring anything, not even the alcohol.

The crowd really depends on the group but these events never miss because the hosts spend alot of time to ensure a great group of men are formed even if they are small in number. These events are held at upscale hotels in suites. Don't be fooled. If a party host is trying to charge $20 and you are not in a suite, then you are being taken advantage of. Premium is a badge that only a few parties can wear because they take the time to create a relationship with those that attend and take the time to carefully screen so you will not run into anything that is not being advertised.

If you are going to attend an event, go with a premium group or party group that charges at least $10 - $15. You work hard for your money and it should provide hours of good hard dicks and ass for you. Make sure you select a group that doesn't make dumb ass claims. There is no #1 in any city. No one has 100% market share. Each group serves a different market and those events that love to tout being #1 when they weren't voted by any outside group is trying to justify taking more of your dough.

Wet Dicks,

Juan Diego, Founder
Undercover Life

Glow Party Review - 6/13/08

Big Things most definitely came in Small Groups last night. I was a bit suprised because many of our brothers came before the doors closed. But once our group arrived , I was very satisfied with the turn out. Everyone was sexy and on point! That is one reason why people screen but I will just give you a quick recap of the action for those that are still scared shitless about coming to an event ....lol

I had took a rare role and started it off with a sexy tall light skin new yawk city brother..lol. It didn't take long before people were on the bed in the dark room getting down. This was some crazy action. The tops were giving it and then went on thier backs to serve it up...This party was versatile action at its best ! There were no hangups and people just enjoyed all of the flavors in the house.

The glow in the dark chains gave enough light to have fun without making it an all around lighted set. This was a great party. Everyone came from somewhere else and in order to reward those who drove out I did something that I had never done before ...I LET EVERYONE PARTY FOR FREE . That's right no cover or donation was needed just get in and let yourself play. And that is what the brothers did. [ Yeah I know you are slapping yourself for not coming out ..but it will be a while before I do a crazy give away ].

We went through so many damn condoms, I entertained going to Sams Club in the future to stock up. Honestly, I never had so many condoms used. Most people just do light play with the exception of a few who are ready to go deep.

Well you won't have to travel for a long while to attend our event next time. We will be moving all of our events to Greenbelt, MD ! And I will pickup the brothers from the Metro Station before the event that need to get a lift. We most definitely want you at the event.

I would like to thank my Delaware brothers who came out to the event and my military brother that stayed after for Breakfast.

Wet Dicks

Juan Diego, Founder

The White Question

I guess it's the elephant in the room of many parties that many don't want to talk about. I have read so many different invitations to parties and either the host is adamant about not having white guys at the event or its a party that is hosted by a white man that is trying to get brothers to come out. I have been doing events for a while and really wanted to weigh on the issue to give you the perspective that many people don't get. Hopefully this will shed some light for the white fam.

First of all, many party host have a distrust of white people. You may argue that its 2008 but many of the hosts have parents that were discriminated, attacked and taught not to mix sexually with other races. There are alot of historical reasons why many African American party hosts will not let you into their set. Rather than getting mad at them , you have to accept the fact that for many of us. The hurts from the past don't go away because MLk marched on Washington. That is the broad answer. I will give some up to date reasons.

They Don't Show up

This has to be the number reason promoters don't want white fam into their set. The guy asks a ton of questions, talks about how much other parties don't let white men in the door and then doesn't show up. I have had hundreds of white men ask for invitations to the party and then not show up. Request to come again and then say the reason they didn't show was because they didn't want to be the only white guy knowing the event was an ethnic based group with 99.9% chocolate. Now they could have saved themselves some time and just threw their own party but they decided to bitch and complain about not getting in and then not show.

Too many Questions

There is a big difference in discretion between white people and men of color. It is just as loud as the color pink at a gay pride parade. I have noticed that white men want to ask 50 questions about an event and then get into the event and ask another 40 questions just killing the vibe for the brothers that are there. Whereas brothers understand that a sex party is just that and only require to know the location, who its for and the cost. They come into an event quiet and feel the place out or if a brother goes to events on the regular, he just takes his clothes off and goes for what he knows.

I have had this happen with several white brothers that wanted to come to my Big Men's party. They asked more questions than anyone and then called from outside the spot to say how nervous they were and wanted to know the racial breakdown of the party, how many people were there and what people were doing. Quite honestly they were being nosy as fuck. They don't get that same information from a bookstore they go to for dick sucking yet want to ask the me so many damn questions and as a host it makes me think that this guy can't keep his mouth closed.

The worst thing for an ethnic group is to have a party and then read a review from some dude talking about who was there and giving all of the groups private information out to the public. For that reason, many parties don't want white fam there because they have observed that white fam for some reason don't know how to go with the flow.


Discretion

Although i have not had to deal with this one, I know a few promoters who have dealt with this one. The guy gets the invite an then comes to the hotel front desk with the invitation asking for information to find the party. Yeah, I couldn't beleive that. But I have heard that so party promoters will just ban the race of dudes than to deal with screening it out. Not that elevated..I know but after someone tries to shut down an event that you spent months promoting..you would be inclined to do that.

Difference of Culture

There are just some differences that are just cultural. White men say "cock" [ I hate that word] , Black men say " dick ". Black men at a sex party can enjoy straight porn while many white men want to see gay porn. White men will want people to just walk in and start fucking where brothers will take some time to feel out the place before fucking. Even in a sex party brothers will exercise in who they pick to get down with. Whereas many white men will just jump on the first dick they can find. I have noticed that brothers will not talk in the dark room while peeps are getting busy where white men will want to talk.

Now these are generalizations based on my experience and a few promoters that have commented on the same thing. Don't hate me. Actually, I could give a fuck if you did. But I just want to put it out there so if you run across an event and don't an invitation or go find a party that doesn't want white people you have some idea why it is.

Looks

Those events that do let white fam in usually will select the creme of the crop into the event than the average white fam. They may advertise athletic and fit but that doesn't mean that an average white fam is going to get into a black party. I have noticed that the white brothers that got into black parties were above average, muscle men and sexy as fuck. They didn't pick opie types or the kind of white fam that couldn't pick up black dudes in a social setting. It's crazy but people are people.

At the end of the day, the party reflects the fantasy of the host and his desires. Now for the Undercover Life policy on this.

We are an ethnic based group and white men should realize that it will be a majority of brothers there.

We don't discriminate on white fam but we want those that would fit very well with our group of men , so every white brother is not going to get in because as a owner, I know that men who don't chill or are very apprehensive or rude will piss of my members.

We ask that any white brother , read the site first to understand what we do and then follow the directions on the invite. This will create a very good experience for him.

We ask that any white brother, not ask 21 questions when he arrives but chill and feel out the place. When in Rome, do as the Romans do.

Besides that we welcome those that fit in our group. I hope that clears up some questions you may have with the ethnic based events and parties. I speak for what i have observed and can only stand on that.

Undercover Life

Don't Believe The Hype

I have been observing something for a very long time but have now decided to say something about it. What is it? All of the false ads and bullshit many of the party promoters are using to get people in the door.

For example, there is a party promoter in the DC Area that going out of his way to let people know how superior his events are. If you have a great event, you should be proud of it. That is not my issue. What is disturbing is the fact that this person advertises the 18-35 age requirement and says that everyone there must be on point [ muscular and extremely fit]. Well i sent one of my boys to the party to see if he really was the hottest party in the city. The results were not shocking.

Let's consider the first fact that my boy exceeded the door requirement in every way. Plus being that i had known him for so long, him giving me the truth would not be an issue. Well he went to the party and stated that no one there was muscular except himself and the host. I do believe that if you go to a party, you must check it out at least three times to get a good feel for it because you can never tell everything about it just once. He did and reported the same thing.

My buddy said they had some very attractive thick men there. I wonder why the founder just didn't advertise that he had some of DC's hottest thick dudes. But I guess that wouldn't sell so he goes with telling everyone in the world that he has the hottest event in the city with all of these imaginary guys that are not showing up.

I think that its just a matter of time before his numbers decrease. You can only deceive the public for so long before true body boys actually show up to your event. Then when they arrive and you don't have anyone there that look like them, you are going to have some real issues because they are going to feel taken after they spent their gas money to come to your event after you have sent all of these over hyped advertisements . There was a review about the event on http://RatetheParties.ning.com and a guy said that when he went there was a six foot drag queen with tits fucking some fem guys...lol Now I don't take these review sites seriously so I sent someone there. He did verify that there were fem guys and there is nothing wrong with a fem dudes if you just let people know you have them....

When will people just state the truth. It seems that promoters fear telling the truth because it would mean that they would have to be on the same footing with everyone else and use content/experience to be successful instead of hype.

I suggest that if you see a party promoter talking about how " Premier ", " #1 ", " The Hottest " event you run as fast as you can. Why? Because these are just labels used to get you in the door and have not been verified by anyone else. Now if the party was rated hot by the local gay magazine or gay website then there would be cause for hype and celebration but when you give yourself acclaim it only smells of lies and an inability to accept the fact that you are just another party out here looking to create a good experience for people.